HOW TO DESTROY A RELATIONSHIP/MARRIAGE IN 4 SIMPLE STEPS

1. Form a bond of close friendship with some else other than your spouse – if you want to destroy your relationship or marriage, make sure you enjoy common interests and form an emotional bond with someone else. It may be a neighbor you use the bus together to work or drive together, a colleague you work with closely, somebody you go to college together. Just find someone else and make sure there is something you enjoy doing together.  When you find this person, make sure you open up and talk deep stuff, emotional stuff about yourself and your marriage. This is called emotional adultery, go ahead, be stupid enough to do this and just destroy your relationship by getting somebody like this.

2. Choose to keep your friendships secret – you want to hurt your marriage and destroy it? One of the best ways is begin keeping secrets especially friendships from your spouse or fiancé. Delete your text messages, go for outings with these friends and keep them secret from your spouse and keep hoping your spouse will never find out.

3. Use every chance you can to flirt – flirt with everyone you can, every chance you have. Use text, email, phone calls and even face to face meetings to flirt like crazy.  Flirting is dangerous for your relationships but people do it all the time and soon a game of flirting develops into something more and before we know it, tears are flowing freely. Flirt at your own risk, if you want to kill you marriage, then go ahead and be a flirt every chance you get I just hope you will not be full of regrets later.

4. Lastly, make excuses and rationalize your actions - Make all sorts of excuses. Tell yourself, if my spouse was meeting my needs, I wouldn't have to be looking elsewhere. If my husband was caring and sensitive, then I wouldn't have to be looking for somebody to listen to me.  Rationalize and lie to yourself, give excuses, I am not unfaithful; I am just having fun and being happy. It is just a chat nothing more, I have everything under control. James rationalized and excused his actions; he was right in his eyes by accusing Lucy of being unfaithful and refused to listen to her. Lucy rationalized and excused her actions, William was just a friend and she chose not to remember the hand holding and kisses.

 Go ahead; ruin your life, your marriage and your relationships by rationalizing and accusing your actions. Judge your spouse by their actions but judge yourself by your intentions.

Many couples end up doing these four things and ruining their marriages and then wonder what happened, courting couples wonder why they broke up yet they did one of the four things above or even much more and refuse to realize it is what you do not what you wanted to do that determines how your relationship goes. Choose today to build your marriage and not to tear it down, choose to build your spouse not to hurt them, choose your relationship above all others.

I would love to hear from you, what other things would you add to my list of relationship spoilers? What things do people do that end up destroying their relationships?